While having a coffee out with a friend, she said that her life had become more chaotic instead of mellowing with age. She pointed out the chaos resulting from her stepson coming to live with his dad and her. It isn’t that my friend was unaware of the stepson. However, he had never lived with his father until now.
You see, his mother could no longer manage him. He was 17, strong, autistic, and getting very violent. So naturally, his mother was concerned about her safety and that of her other children. The smaller children had been identified as a possible trigger for his anger.
And so it was that my friend suddenly had a 17-year-old boy in the house. A 17-year-old who happens to need to have the tv on at the same time he has music on. Both are being played at loud volumes at all hours because apparently, sleep isn’t something her stepson needs a lot of.
My friend said she and her husband were exhausted and concerned about the number of violent outbursts they had already witnessed. Unfortunately, it seems the answers for dealing with his violence included calling authorities to have him hospitalized and trying to figure out what triggered the outrage. My friend said that everyone is worried about what will happen to the son when he’s an adult or when his parents are no longer there for him.
She said when she’s not dealing with her stepson’s chaos, she’s dealing with the chaos of worrying about him.