Someone Was Wrong

Someone assured me that if I knew Beloved’s dark past, I would have never chosen to try and find the sun with him. Except Beloved doesn’t really have a dark past. Shadows for sure, but true darkness? No he lacks that. And I found the sun in him, in his radiance, and love.

Now to be sure, it is I who should have been the warning to him. For where he has shadows, I carry deep, dark ink spills. Those spills that threaten to black out the light and the fun. But also well earned from adventures of a past he can’t possible grasp. It isn’t for lack of trying on his part, but he simply has no reference. We grew up so completely differently.

Some times, when’s, when I’m with him, I wonder how it is that he is all the softness and light to my hard Darkness. How did he, who grew up in less than desirably conditions and less than what is considered poverty end up with the lightness and comfort? How is it that my soft landing place is this wonderful man who knows I don’t want someone to hold me, but to let me reach out to him when needed? How could someone be so wrong?

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Of Visitors

Last night, well technically early this morning, someone tried to enter my house.  Someone who did not have a key.  Who wasn’t invited.  And who had not mastered the art of stealth.

This person disturbed the four-footed one and I during our slumber.  The four-footed one woke with a start and a series of loud, concerned barks.  I checked the cameras and locks. His noisy being was caught on camera never even knowing it.  His eyes were wide with surprise or fear as he heard the four-footed one announce her displeasure.

The alarm company had alerted the police and before this person could realize what as happening, a police cruiser was stopped at my house.  The man tried to say he lived at the house and had forgotten his key.  The police weren’t buying it.

We learned later that the guy had the wrong street.  He had been told to rob a specific house and had his numbers mixed up.  The police opted to keep him and ask more questions.

The four-footed one and I couldn’t get back to sleep.  And even though we were exhausted throughout the day, we didn’t sleep deeply of long.  Because if there is one visitor there may be more.  And we aren’t the type of people to encourage those types of visitors.

When You Find Something New

The four-footed one has discovered face cloths.  Wet face cloths to be exact.  I should back up a few steps and explain a bit.  It’s been very hot here.  Unusually hot.  Too hot for anyone wearing a fur coat.  Way too hot if the fur coat that is being worn is dark.  So naturally the four-footed one fits neatly into the category someone who is wearing a dark fur coat.

Naturally the four-footed also likes the sun more than the shade.  And refuses to have water out on her. Basically today the four-footed one would wander into the sun, flop down and sun bathe.  She’d get removed to the shade,yet she’d just move herself again.

She was provided oodles of places with water.  A mister was turned on and in a moment of desperation I made s face cloth good and damp with cold water and tossed it on her. Gently dear readers, I tossed it on her gently.  Now some animals like that.  They find it cooling.

The four-footed one though was having none of is.  She shook it off her back, went over to where if fell and proceeded to chew it.  Because she’s that kind of dog.  Unfortunately for me, she has discovered a like for these cloths.  She prefers they are wet, but will chew and roll happily on a dry one all the same.  How do I know you ask.  Because she managed to get ahold for freshly laundered ones and proceeded to have her own little party with them.  I guess when you discover a good thing it’s hard to pass it up.

Strangely Unclear

There is something strange going around here.  Not strange like aliens or Bigfoot.  Just what it is that’s so strange isn’t exactly evident or clear to me.  It’s just strange, as in slightly odd, not normal for here.

The four-footed one has started doing a grid search of sorts in the garden.  I noticed her doing vertical lines covering the whole garden.  When I turned back, I noticed she was doing the same search, this time going horizontally.  Clearly this is a bit strange.  Normally she just sort of goes wherever her nose takes her.

She has diligently carried out this grid search three times today so far.  In addition she is now doing full perimeter searches of the house.  No place has been left unsniffed.  No one has been near parts of the house today, I know this because I have been home all day.

The four-footed one has taken to crawling under blankets when she’s now in the hues.  Granted it’s rather chilly today, but not really crawl under  the blankets sort of chilly.

Sure so far everything I’ve said is about the four-footed one.  But this next piece isn’t.  The oven that has been so good to me suddenly started acting odd too.  So instead of the oven holding the set temperature, it now randomly shuts itself off or raises and lowers the temperature.  See strange things, not anything I can illy explain or place m finger on for why they are happening.  It just is.

Sandwiches, Medical Interventions, And Sun Protection Oh My!

Different things make people excited.  Just today I overheard a woman say she was super excited to be putting together all of the ingredients for her sandwiches.   Now I cannot say I have ever been in a place in my life where putting together a sandwich would make me super excited; eating a sandwich however might be a different story!

Of course how many people would be excited about having a port put in their body as I was when my doctor finally agreed it would make the most sense given the state of my veins.  Hey when you have lupus, you tend to find if you don’t have to walk around with deep bruises and such all the time when you are getting treatment, well, it’s exciting.

I’ve also been excited about injecting medications (yes I know, weird) and even sunscreen.

Had you asked me years ago if I could ever see myself excited about any of these things, I would have laughed at you. See a few years ago I was afraid of needles so the whole injecting meds and getting a port would be more of a horrible thing rather than exciting item.  As for sunscreen, well no I can’t say that I would have been excited about sunscreen either.

Today, after judging that lady who was excited about together her sandwiches I came home to discover that my special detergent, the one that adds sun protection to your clothing for 30 washes had arrived.  Now you want to talk about super exciting?  Yes this delivery is most certainly that!  People who need to avoid the sun for a variety of reasons will understand this.

Partnership

Lupus makes for an odd partnership, and I’m not so sure that I would have volunteered to partner up with lupus on my own. And yet here we are, partners for life! Please don’t misunderstand, I don’t think anyone would partner with lupus on his/her own, or just because.

But since having lupus in my life I can say that I have learned many things that I might not have otherwise learned. I am stronger than I thought I ever would be, frankly than I ever thought I would have to be.

I have learned that pacing is important when it comes to using energy and strength wisely. Lupus continues to try to teach me on the importance of pacing. This is a long, drawn out lesson as when I feel like my old self, or at least close to my old self, I rush to make up for lost time. When I rush to make up for lost time, doing too much or not resting enough lupus comes up and smacks me upside the head.

I have discovered that life itself is an adventure, full of ups and downs and frankly sometimes both things happening at the same time. It reminds me of when I was a child at Disney riding on the spinning cups. Disorienting and somewhat exhilarating the same time. Yes I said lupus is exhilarating, never really sure where or how we will stop, just knowing that lupus doesn’t always lead this dance.

Most of all lupus has reminded me what unconditional love is. When you are made unreliable due to chronic illness people drop out of your life. Those who stay are the ones who love you unconditionally. They are the ones who will fist fight the raging wall of lupus with you. They have your back.

Down The Rabbit Hole I Go

Beloved slide the paper my way, a few areas circled to draw my attention to key pieces of information. The thing is, I didn’t want to read it, not the whole paper to be sure and I wasn’t feeling too keen to read the stuff he had circled either. Not because it wasn’t interesting; most of what he finds tends to catch my interest.

It was more a case of not wanting to read anything heavy or dark. Beloved, like myself, never reads the happy stuff in the paper. We wade through the stories of that make your stomach churn and we talk about the bigger picture with these stories. It’s easy to end up down the tunnel that started out as a small rabbit hole and somehow surface after realizing you’ve traveled many miles from where you have started. And I wasn’t in the mood for it.

So I pushed the paper aside pointing out I had a class to get to and tried to not give into the thoughts of what nightmare he had found to chase this time. If I pause for even a moment I knew that I would give in to the curiosity that always bubbles just below the surface and I too would be off chasing that nightmare instead of preparing for a discussion on fear. Well not so much preparing as setting up for class.

Fear itself would bring me to a different rabbit hole, it always does. One this a million different tunnels and places to explore. All of them exciting and all of them beckoning me with their own offers of something unknown. And so, despite ignoring the paper, I somehow ended up down a rabbit hole that eventually linked up to one of the ones Beloved had found so early in the morning. Because sometimes no matter how hard you try to avoid things, no matter how hard you work, fear and rabbit holes cannot be avoided.