I want to believe I live in a world where justice is blind, but just. I want to believe I live in a world where equality is equal for all. I want to believe I live in a world where people are following ethical guidelines for making rules/laws.
Now and then I catch glimpse that this type of world is there, but all too often these glimpses are fleeting. It’s as if it’s just beyond our reach, it as long as we keep trying, as long as we keep striving forward it is possible to reach it.
Of course the proof that justice isn’t always blind nor just, is evident daily. I live in a culture where power and money, material items, all make a difference when justice comes in to play. I don’t suspect that most people want it to be this way, but there is enough data that if you look well turned out or hold a professional standing in this culture justice tends to turn into your favor and is kinder. There is, as much as people deny it, a color bar that comes into play with justice. There is a so a financial bar that is used as a measuring stick.
I live in a culture where I’m told employers are equal opportunity employers. This includes gender, race etc. but I’ve seen women hired as a token hirings, same with races. I’ve been told that all genders are equal, but we still have protests, rallies and such to try to grant equal rights for this. The fact we qualify or identify people by gender or race says that there is something of difference to be noted rather than realizing we are all humans with the same rights.
As for ethics, I live in a culture that debates what is ethical and how to compromise various ethical ideologies.
Now I can sit back and ale observations, or I can acknowledge that if I want to live in the world in believe in, then I too have a part to play.
When I see my friends with their children sometimes I wonder how it is that I made it through childhood. It isn’t that my parents didn’t care for me or love me, I mean they assured me that this wasn’t the case. But my parents never considered child proofing the house, well other than teaching me the word no, often and early in my life.
Some of my friends seem to think the world revolves around their children. I hate to be the one to break the news, but the world, really does not revolve around their precious little offspring.
Oh don’t misunderstand, I completely get how a parent’s life becomes consumed by his/her child. In a way that’s how it should be. But to expect a law office or a university to suddenly become not just child friendly, but child catering is a bit much.
When a friend recently expressed horror at being asked to leave a lawyer’s office as her young daughter basically put graffiti on the wall I wondered what happened to the woman I used to know. The practical one; the one who didn’t want nor need special treatment; the one who was childless and didn’t think that status or the status of having a child meant more attention. Somewhere among the dirty diapers, bottles, first steps and babbling she lost track of that.
When I suggested that I would have done the same thing, she became angry asking what I expected a young child to do in the office. A gentle suggestion to bring items to occupy the child was met with stony silence and then “why should I have to carry all that around”.
I didn’t say it but I probably should have pointed put her child is her responsibility, including entertainment. Heck my mom carried a huge purse around for years, not because she wanted to, but to carry the stuff for me. If she felt it should be otherwise, she never said a word. Of course she also didn’t expect offices to be rearranged to suit me either. And my mother may have felt that yes a village raises an child, but certainly never would say the whole village dotes and revolves around only one child.