Emotional Cut

While she was cutting my hair into her latest creation, my stylist was telling me about her children.  She wasn’t pleased with them and it came across in the steady, sharp “snip” of the scissors.  She would stop occasionally, telling me she needed to calm down before she got caught up in her anger.  For the whole time she was cutting my hair, i had a wee bit of fear.  This hair cut would no be a warm, soothing cut.

Now what is a person to do when your cut starts out okay and then your stylist starts becoming angry?  Do you leave part way through, or close your eyes nd hope for the best?  Given my schedule, I stayed and closed my eyes, not wanting to see  potential carnage until it was over.  Of course when she was finished it looked okay.  It was different from how she planned to do it,  it still worked.

I was taught that personal issues should never be brought to work.  I had assumed t as so that you gave work your dedicated attention for  the  time they are paying you.  But now I realize it can be for more reasons that.  It can be a matters of safety for some lines of work.  It can be   a case of being emotionally well enough to be at work.

sure we are taught you work unless sick/injured, it as  yourself, at what cost? If your mind can’t focus, if your emotions ar are l over the map,  you well  enough?  Hopefully companies can ge behind this because it surely impacts productivity.


Taking Yourself Away

A few years back I spent a month on vacation. It was a blissful month, one that allowed me to refresh and recharge myself. (I know that makes me sound less like a human and more like a battery or piece of equipment. When did we get to this point?)

I was telling a friend about the idea of taking a month off and putting ones self first. It’s a wonderful thing if you can afford it. My friend asked me how I could spend a whole month sitting on my beach.

I must confess my response was something akin to “What? Who does that?” And that’s when it hit me, many people will think a vacation to be a relaxing enterprise, doing only a few things and then resting again.

My month-long vacation was not relaxing, not in the sense of resting on a beach. There was a lot of biking and walking, some hiking and some heavy lifting (shopping for books etc.).

The point is we all rest and recharge, find our peace if you will, by doing different things. But what we all need to do is remember to honor ourselves, not in the bragging sense or throwing our egos out. When we do not honor ourselves we may be sending messages to others that it is okay for them to not honor our needs for taking of ourselves. Let’s face it, we aren’t crabs so we aren’t going to re-grow body parts. They may be able to transplant organs, but that isn’t a guarantee. The best investment you will ever make is the investment in yourself and your well being.