Beloved went to visit his family, I stayed home because I wasn’t up for the trip and given my new treatment for lupus I need to be careful around people who are sick. One of his nieces was just getting over a cold so I didn’t feel it would be wise to risk it.
So while he went off to visit family, I attempted to work on my calm, peace and napping. According to
warden tracking device my attempts at peace and calm actually increase my work on focus. And attempting to nap turns into activity apparently. It could be that my warden is a bit confused or I’m confused at what these activities are supposed to be like. Of course there is also a bit of, umm, what you may call contrarian behavior on my part! Just a wee touch mind! 😉
While I was in my attempting to nap phase, (I wonder if I always had this idea with napping or did I just get anti-napping at some stage in life?), I received a text message from one of Beloved’s sisters. The text started with “we had a great visit” and then “he’s on his way home and we didn’t want to alarm you so…” (Pretty sure it’s stuff like this that doesn’t help in the napping department, or the calm if you get right down to it!)
after a brief period of nothing, a picture of Beloved came onto my screen. Beloved with a swollen cheek and a black eye. Beloved who looked as if he had been assaulted. Because he had been. By his almost sixteen year old nephew. A nephew who has violent rages that are set off by just about anything. Or so it seems to me because I don’t understand autism. And the nephew has autism.
Now once upon a time, in a galaxy far far away, or was it a long long time ago…anyway at one stage in his life Beloved trained in boxing. He also worked as a bouncer. Just not in the same phase. The boxing came first, the bouncing came later on.
The picture I saw looked like a man who never figured out how to move and doge. Bobbing and weaving seem to have left Beloved’s skill set. But when he came home, he assured me it wasn’t for lack of bobbing or weaving. It happened when he and his brother-in-law were trying to restrain the violence.
Apparently at some point the nephew became frustrated and started throwing objects. At people. Thankfully the baseball teams aren’t beating a path to his doorway although I pretty sure the Speed his throws things at are impressive. He just needs to work on accuracy, but no one is lining up to give him this skill. That could become a deadly mistake.
After running out of items to throw, the boy decided that hitting, kicking and biting people were in order. It was at this point, before blood was drawn or a successful bite landed in human flesh, Beloved and his brother-in-law moved to operation restraint. Successful this time. But at some point someone won’t be able to restrain him and then what?
What happens to the boy? What happens to any one who gets in his way? How do we protect him from himself and still protect everyone else without taking him away from opportunities and society? He isn’t even fully grown yet. Do the rages get stronger as his strength grows? What happens if it gets out of hand? If someone gets hurt, especially if someone who doesn’t neerstand him gets hurt…or worse?